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Today is my birthday.  And the first day back to work.  I spent the weekend with my mother and step-father doing home improvement.  It is not done.  I generally live in a construction zone, so this is nothing new, but this construction zone is larger than usual.  Of course, our project was larger than usual.  WAY larger.  We took out a hall closet, enlarged the upstairs bathroom and are putting in a shower.  On the way, we discovered that the bathroom sink was actually duct taped together, not connected with pipes like normal plumbing.  We also redid the mudroom – pulled up floor (linoleum, 3/4 ply, more linoleum) and then laid tile, painted and made new baseboards and changed the lighting fixture and updated the sockets.  That room looks nice.  I need to add window coverings.  Why that little 7×7 room should have more windows than my living room is beyond me.

I have friends who chose to stay in NOLA during Hurricane Gustav.  Not terribly close friends, but close enough for me to worry like crazy.  I spent a lot of time singing that hurricane away from my friends.  It must have worked.  Of course, there were about 100 other womyn singing it away, too.  It was interesting to see the reaction of my mom and step-dad.  My mother, after dismissing my friends as crazy, did not want to hear any updates, going so far as to say, “I don’t care about that.”  My step-father, on the other hand, would ask what the update was every time he noticed me slipping off to check the computer.

Normally, my mother and I are really close.  But on this visit, she was full of judgement and little biting remarks that she called “teasing.”  Yesterday, after having responded to her snipes several times with my own comments like, “that feels mean,” I finally said, “Why are you sniping at me?”  Her response was, “I was only teasing.”  (again) and I responded with, “I don’t like it and I’ve been telling you that all weekend!”  I’m afraid my tone wasn’t very kind.  She did stop with the comments, though.

I have one birthday gift to open today.  Not a bad thing – my home construction project was a gift, too.  This just happens to be the one that is still under wraps.  I love, love, love opening surprises!  I think I’m going to save it for tonight, after dinner with my friends, when I am a little tired and am savoring the day.  I want to be able to stop and picture the womyn who sent it to me and be fully present in the moment that I open it.  When someone thinks enough of you to send a gift, it should be given your full attention.


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