Another interesting meta-phrase, “I miss you.” Was talking about this with a friend who was feeling particularly lonely and said those words. Followed by something to the effect that saying so seemed needy, didn’t it? Now, let me go back to the truth that communication is never as clear-cut as we would like it to [...]
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I miss you
Posted in intentional self, tagged being real, communication, gratitude, intentional self, intimacy, L, open heart, real, relationships on October 17, 2010 | 1 Comment »
Space
Posted in intentional self, tagged alone, fearlessness, friendship, intentional self, intimacy, L, privacy, relationships, S on September 25, 2010 | 3 Comments »
I was talking with a friend the other day (okay, we were emailing and the last installment was yesterday) and we were discussing the need for space. Physical space, to be alone, all alone, especially when you’re in a deeply intimate relationship. And not just any space – space that feels like it’s yours. She [...]
The Meta Phrase
Posted in intentional self, Uncategorized, tagged being real, gratitude, intentional self, intimacy, L, love, relationships on September 12, 2010 | Leave a Comment »
Been thinking about that three word phrase, “I love you.” I know someone who doesn’t use it often, because, as she says, “‘love’ is one of those meta words that can mean different things to different people.” She prefers to go straight to the detail, the aspect of love that would inspire an ‘I love you,’ and [...]
LDR
Posted in intentional self, tagged intimacy, L, open heart, relationships on August 25, 2010 | Leave a Comment »
One of the things that I’ve found interesting about being a teacher and being in a long-distance relationship has to do with summer vacations. First off, let me say that my lover and I are both people who value our alone time. At the same time, we enjoy sharing the small events of our days with each [...]
Blessed Life
Posted in intentional self, Uncategorized, tagged being real, L, LO, love, open heart on June 2, 2010 | 2 Comments »
When children are little, they go through a stage where they can only have one friend. The best friend. The only friend. And they want that friend to have only them. Inevitably, the one friend makes another friend. For the original friend, it can be devastating. They aren’t willing or able to share and anger [...]
Responsibility
Posted in intentional self, tagged being real, depression, friendship, intimacy, L, open heart, S on April 17, 2010 | Leave a Comment »
More than a few of my friends are sideways people, and within that group, many of them also have depression. One of my most intimate friends and I were having a conversation about her depression and it struck me how very responsible she feels about it. Not about having it, but about her perception that she [...]
A little of this, a little of that…
Posted in Uncategorized, tagged being real, intimacy, L, real on June 12, 2009 | Leave a Comment »
Okay, so on Wednesday, on my way home from work, driving up I93, I got rear-ended. It was peak traffic time and we were going pretty slow – my airbag didn’t even go off. I pull over and hop out of my car to assess the damage, and the other driver gets out of his [...]
Sideways People
Posted in Uncategorized, tagged being real, friendship, intimacy, L, real, S on June 8, 2009 | Leave a Comment »
There are a couple of people in my life, okay, more than a couple, who are sideways. We connect at really intimate places and enjoy some of the most stimulating conversation I’ve ever experienced, but this is not the habit of these womyn. Generally speaking, they aren’t comfortable with emotion or intimacy. So, much of [...]
It’s all in how you tell the tale
Posted in Uncategorized, tagged being real, friendship, L, open heart, privacy, real on April 25, 2009 | Leave a Comment »
I’ve really been examining the quality of my interactions lately. The surface me often draws lots of people to be a little curious, want to know more, be interested. I try to be open to these experiences and draw others out, too. I’ve met some really interesting people this way. And I’ve had to filter [...]
