Another interesting meta-phrase, “I miss you.” Was talking about this with a friend who was feeling particularly lonely and said those words. Followed by something to the effect that saying so seemed needy, didn’t it? Now, let me go back to the truth that communication is never as clear-cut as we would like it to [...]
Posts Tagged ‘intimacy’
I miss you
Posted in intentional self, tagged being real, communication, gratitude, intentional self, intimacy, L, open heart, real, relationships on October 17, 2010 | 1 Comment »
Space
Posted in intentional self, tagged alone, fearlessness, friendship, intentional self, intimacy, L, privacy, relationships, S on September 25, 2010 | 3 Comments »
I was talking with a friend the other day (okay, we were emailing and the last installment was yesterday) and we were discussing the need for space. Physical space, to be alone, all alone, especially when you’re in a deeply intimate relationship. And not just any space – space that feels like it’s yours. She [...]
The Meta Phrase
Posted in intentional self, Uncategorized, tagged being real, gratitude, intentional self, intimacy, L, love, relationships on September 12, 2010 | Leave a Comment »
Been thinking about that three word phrase, “I love you.” I know someone who doesn’t use it often, because, as she says, “‘love’ is one of those meta words that can mean different things to different people.” She prefers to go straight to the detail, the aspect of love that would inspire an ‘I love you,’ and [...]
LDR
Posted in intentional self, tagged intimacy, L, open heart, relationships on August 25, 2010 | Leave a Comment »
One of the things that I’ve found interesting about being a teacher and being in a long-distance relationship has to do with summer vacations. First off, let me say that my lover and I are both people who value our alone time. At the same time, we enjoy sharing the small events of our days with each [...]
Responsibility
Posted in intentional self, tagged being real, depression, friendship, intimacy, L, open heart, S on April 17, 2010 | Leave a Comment »
More than a few of my friends are sideways people, and within that group, many of them also have depression. One of my most intimate friends and I were having a conversation about her depression and it struck me how very responsible she feels about it. Not about having it, but about her perception that she [...]
A little of this, a little of that…
Posted in Uncategorized, tagged being real, intimacy, L, real on June 12, 2009 | Leave a Comment »
Okay, so on Wednesday, on my way home from work, driving up I93, I got rear-ended. It was peak traffic time and we were going pretty slow – my airbag didn’t even go off. I pull over and hop out of my car to assess the damage, and the other driver gets out of his [...]
Sideways People
Posted in Uncategorized, tagged being real, friendship, intimacy, L, real, S on June 8, 2009 | Leave a Comment »
There are a couple of people in my life, okay, more than a couple, who are sideways. We connect at really intimate places and enjoy some of the most stimulating conversation I’ve ever experienced, but this is not the habit of these womyn. Generally speaking, they aren’t comfortable with emotion or intimacy. So, much of [...]
Personal Boundaries
Posted in Uncategorized, tagged abuse, being real, cjt, fearlessness, forgiveness, intimacy, open heart on May 29, 2009 | 1 Comment »
I’ve been thinking a lot about personal boundaries lately. How to keep them safe, when to stretch them, how to be graceful about them (putting them out there and making it known the line is getting pushed) and what to do when they are ignored. This is so much a part of living fearlessly and [...]
Intimacy vs. Fearless Living
Posted in Uncategorized, tagged A, being real, fearlessness, friendship, intentional self, intimacy, open heart, real on May 7, 2009 | 1 Comment »
Last night I had a really interesting conversation with a new potential friend. She wanted to know – if I am committed to living fearlessly, why aren’t I intimate with everyone I know? Don’t we refuse intimacy because of fear around what people will do with our deepest secrets? Isn’t not trusting someone the same [...]
